Intentional Decrease in Posts

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Hi All,

Just wanted to let you all know that I am going to be posting less often. There are just too many spring projects to accomplish, such as gardening, sewing, hiking, and more!

I will be adding more Twitter tweets and also learning about social networking.  I want to see what all the fuss is about.  So if you have some time to burn up, you might just find me at FaceBook and who knows where else?  New ones are getting created even as I blog!

Thanks to all of you who read. It is fun to blog and learn more about blogging.

Diane

Comments (1) Apr 26 2008

Like a Waterfall

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On our way home from our anniversary dinner I ask Upali if we can drop by the temple for a blessing. He says whatever I want to do is fine with him, his usual reply. I hear mumbles of complaints from the back seat when I turn onto the road leading to the temple. “Mom, we want to go home and swing! We don’t want to go to the temple!”

I persist and insist they both sit still with us as the monks talk to us. The Head Monk is very kind, and speaks English very well, and has a “few words” to say to me. I blush through most of it.

“Diane, congratulations on twelve years. Now you know your life. You see that life is difficult. You look back on twelve years. Who were you then? You were a single woman. Then you became the very good wife of Upali. Then you became the wonderful mother of these two children. You understand that life is difficult. You are special, and therefore many blessings are coming to you because of your life. You know, Diane, when the river passes over the smooth place, it is not beautiful. But when the water rushes over the rocks or tumbles down the mountainside, it is very beautiful then. It is not easy for the water to travel over the rocks or down the mountainside, but that is when the water is the most beautiful. So it is with life. Life is sometimes easy and sometimes difficult. You must remember that life is both.”

I did not know what to say after that so kept silent except for a simple “Thank you.” We then went into the main hall and sat down for the chanting of the Meditation of Victory. Incense was lit.The pali syllables of the two monks filled the room with song and my heart with joy. The pirith noule was wrapped around each of our right wrists and a prayer said as the knot tied. Nisha began to refuse hers but I persisted and held her hand gently as the monk tied the string. She would not look at him.

I glanced at Buddha as we left the room. Peace.

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Comments (0) Apr 16 2008

Wilted Violets

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I have promised not to notice the small pink bag that has been spirited from the house and into the ice cream shop. I have been pretending not to notice the bag all day. It first caught my attention early this morning as Nisha and Ravi took it outside. I go to the patio door to call them in for lunch and have caught them unawares. Hands and arms quickly hide behind backs, and Cheshire cat smiles grace their faces. “Okay, Mom, we’ll be right there. In a minute.” I politely make myself scarce so the bag can be hidden outside.

“Mom, you didn’t see that pink bag, did you?” asks Ravi. “No, Ravi, I have no idea what you are talking about.” He smiles. “It is going to be your anniversary present.” Nisha scowls at him. “You better not tell me about it if it is a surprise,” I gently advise. Nisha smiles. “Your present is made of things from nature, Mom.” Six year olds just cannot keep exciting secrets to themselves. Nisha groans. I run to the sink and quickly turn on the water. “What? Are you talking to me? I cannot hear anything.” Nisha puts her hand over Ravi’s mouth and tells him to be quiet. Whew! As children can so easily do, they will themselves to believe that I have no idea what they are planning.

We take showers and get “dressed up” for the exciting anniversary dinner. My contribution to wearing something special is a pair of earrings Upali has given me for some birthday or Valentine’s Day or anniversary, no one can remember. Nisha chooses ‘Hello Kitty’ and Ravi wears a special Wiggles shirt. Nisha has made Upali an anniversary card. We anxiously await his arrival from work. When his car enters the garage both children scream in excitement and hide in the playroom.

The restaurant for the dinner has been chosen by circumstance. My company’s holiday gift certificate for Honey Baked Ham has to suffice. We arrive promptly at one of the children’s regular hungry times, 4pm. We have the place to ourselves. There is enough money after our deli dinner to bring some sliced ham home with us. The server offers our children cookies and I cannot say no. We make the short outing more special by going to Graeter’s Ice Cream Shop for dessert.

As we sit around the table eating ice cream, Nisha places the little pink bag in front of us. “Here, Mommy and Tathi. Happy Anniversary from me and Ravi.” We are touched. I peek into the bag. It is half full of wilted flowers, grass, twigs, bark, pine cones, and acorns. “Oh, Tathi, look! It is SO beautiful!” I hand the bag to Upali and he admires the contents as well, smiles, and thanks the children. I am truly touched. Wilted Flowers

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Comments (2) Apr 15 2008

Remembering Ted Gies

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Ted Gies would have been 65 today. Where would he be living and what would he be doing if he were still on this planet with us?

I moved to Eugene in Feb, 1986 and met Ted at Saturday Market on the opening day of Market that year. Shumba was playing, and my eyes gazed out over the crowd dancing and swaying to the marimba beat. I saw Ted smiling. That evening I would give three people a ride to the contra dance in Corvallis. Ted was one of the three. He and I shared the closing waltz. That was the beginning of our relationship.

Ted’s 43rd birthday arrived a week later. I remember picking purple flowers from the yard at the house on Jay Street where I was renting a room, and going to a birthday lunch for Ted at the Gazebo Restaurant. There I met Joan and Janet. Janet had just learned she had won that year’s Bach Festival Poster Contest, so it was a double celebration. Ted introduced me as his new sweetie. I was proud to carry that title.

Here is the excerpt from my journal soon after learning of Ted’s accidental death in November 1995. I was in Japan at the time.

December 30, 1995 Kakegawa, Japan

I am in shock over Ted’s death. I received word of it via a Fax from Sue to Noriko, who handed it to Ananda, who handed it to Upali to give to me. When I read the line “Ted Gies died awhile ago…” I just screamed and fell to the floor in tears. I cried myself into an exhausted sleep that night.

On her last day in Japan, Maria and I grabbed a taxi to Fujimi Cemetery. There we found a cherry tree up on a hill and pushed some flowers into the ground at the base of the tree. We told a few stories about Ted, then ended our private memorial service in true Ted style by declaring, “Here lies Ted. Ted is dead.” Mt. Fuji can be seen from ‘Ted’s Tree’ on a clear winter day. Ted would have liked that spot. His tree should be in full bloom each April 11th, his birthday.

Ted creeps into my thoughts almost daily. I think of all the things I learned from him, all the fun times camping, all the emotional pain we went through together. I can’t believe he is gone. He had just driven up from California to visit me in Eugene on October 1st. He accompanied me to my various appointments in town and farewell parties, and then before we knew it, it was time to take me to the airport for my Ohio portion of my two-month whirlwind visit to the USA.

I called Bob J in Bishop to get more details about the circumstances surrounding Ted’s death. I talked to Irene, who was very helpful and comforting. Ted fell on a glacier in Esha Canyon in the John Muir Wilderness, near Nevahbe Ridge sometime about November 16th. When he didn’t show up for work on Nov. 18th, the search began. Bob J went up to the canyon with one of the Search and Rescue teams. First Ted’s truck was spotted. Then his backpack, still unpacked, was found beside a small, unnamed lake. The helicopter spotted Ted face down, and reported him dead for any lack of movement - there was no response to the sound or the winds caused by the helicopter. A friend of Irene’s inspected Ted’s body and assured us all that Ted died instantly from the impact of the fall.

Irene says that Esha is the Puite word for coyote. So Esha Canyon is Coyote Canyon. How appropriate, Ted. You, who first showed me the beauty of the desert, who first taught me to recognize the call of the coyote in the hours of dusk. You were like an antelope, bounding from boulder to boulder, fearless and flying free. Always urging me to try it, too, but I was timid, carefully making my way along the undulating paths. Is that how it happened, Ted? I remember your stories of close calls in the wilderness, those tales of getting caught in the dark, just trying to get over one more ridge. But even despite these tales, I never once feared for your safety. Your death came as a real shock to me. One month later I am still in shock. I can only imagine what sadness your parents must be feeling now.

Goodbye, Ted. But it is much too early to say goodbye! I am happy that you finally made the break from the rainy northwest and started making a new life for yourself in the high desert country. At least you were living where you really wanted to be in the end.Esha Canyon Snowfield Nov 1995

Esha Canyon snow field where Ted fell

Climbers Going Up Esha Canyon snowfield Nov 1995

Climbers going up snow field

Search and Rescue Team Pilot for Ted Nov 1995

Helicopter pilot

Search and Rescue Team for Ted Nov 1995

Search and Rescue Team

Comments (0) Apr 11 2008

Fourteen Years

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While in Beijing in 1994, our postcards and other souvenirs were handed to us in plastic bags printed with “Beijing 2000″ and the Olympic rings. The world had just learned that Beijing had lost by two votes in its bid to be chosen the Olympic City for the 2000 Winter Games. At the time I wondered how many bags had been printed up, how much confidence had Beijing had at being chosen? The international non-violence and human rights community had widely protested the possible choice and many analysts attribute the lost bid to these protests, sparked by the massacre of pro-democracy demonstrators at Tien’anmen Square in 1989.

Fast forward fourteen years. More protests, more violence. But Beijing has been chosen. It seems there is no turning back. Who will boycott?

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Comments (0) Apr 06 2008